It is easy to get down on ourselves as moms on a daily, if not hourly basis. Today, as I was cutting up fruit for breakfast I was celebrating that we were eating well all day. Fruit for breakfast, Greek Chicken Wings for lunch and Chili with Homemade Cornbread for dinner. I tend to allow Satan to pick on me over little things. For example, not feeding my kids 3 totally prepared meals from scratch each day.
It was then (while cutting fruit) that I realized that I needed to celebrate the little victories each day. The war isn’t won in one decisive battle, it is mostly won in the small battles along the way. It is the same way with our families. I won the healthy eating battle today, but the war is still on. I will choose to celebrate that I did well today with feeding my family well. I won’t pick on myself that yesterday we ate out or had frozen waffles for breakfast.
Looking forward and not looking backwards. “But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, ‘I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.’” Philippians 3:13b-14
It is the same way in each battlefield in our lives and our family’s lives. Did we win the battle in spending enough time with our kids or husbands today? Did we help to train our kids spiritually today? Did we get in some quiet time with God ourselves? Did we exercise? Is the house clean? How about homeschooling? Did we get it all done today? Were we able to be patient all day long, or did we lose it?
If I look at this list, it is easy to get depressed quickly. I can’t do it all, everyday, well. If it isn’t perfect, I freeze and am not sure what to do. I tend to beat myself up if everything isn’t perfect. I have long been a follower of FlyLady. She has taught me some things about my perfectionistic attitude.
FlyLady really has taught me to take BABY STEPS. I try to celebrate the little things that I accomplish in the day. Is the kitchen sink clear? Yes, it is most days now. I can remember being newly married and always having dishes in the sink. I can say on most days, I have won that battle, even with 5 kids.
What are some of your battles? (I’d love you to post them in the comments below.) We all have them and I hope that this blog will be able to encourage us in ways to win the battles, and ultimately the war!
PS. If you aren’t familiar with FlyLady please check out her website @ http://www.flylady.com/